Later On

A blog written for those whose interests more or less match mine.

Relationship diagnosis note: Look at how they fight and also over what

leave a comment »

Interesting note from Richard P. Grant:

Few would dispute that good communication is essential to a happy and successful relationship. Even arguments might not necessarily be a bad thing–an air-clearing argument need not be destructive, and is probably more healthy than sullen silences. But recent work reported in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy now suggests that what partners discuss, or argue about, could be indicative of the health of a relationship 10.1080/0092623X.2011.547352.During recorded discussions between newlyweds the researchers noted how the participants behaved during conflict. While conflict itself, or even ‘negative behaviour’ (from the paper: “contemptuous, domineering, belligerent, defensive, and angry” behaviour) during conflict did not of itself predict a lower satisfaction with the marriage, negativity when discussing sexual issues did. 

R. Taylor Segraves, evaluating the article, points out that there are two conclusions for marital therapists: first, they should focus on sexual behaviour in newlyweds; second, the behaviour of the couple while discussing sexual matters should be noted.

It’s a small study (only 15 couples were interviewed) but if borne out implies that emotionally charged conflict (i.e. over sexual matters) could be a much stronger predictor of relationship distress than mere arguments about the mortgage, or what colour curtains go best with the carpet.

Written by LeisureGuy

4 April 2011 at 10:58 am

Posted in Daily life, Science

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.