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The old “don’t make people uncomfortable” dodge

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Much discrimination is perpetuated on the notion that it is somehow reprehensible that people should ever be uncomfortable—and the cause of their discomfort is always something outside themselves (which reminds one of the claim made by abusive husbands: “She made me do it. I didn’t want to hit her, but she made me.”).

Now we see the military perpetuating discrimination because being nondiscriminatory would make some people (i.e., bigots) “uncomfortable”. I don’t recall when the military ordered racial integration that they worried much about discomfort: the troops were integrated and they by God dealt with it. What is different now?

Rachel Swarns reports in the NY Times:

Nakisha Hardy spent the first nine months of her marriage on a remote Army base in Afghanistan, a tour of duty punctuated by sporadic mortar blasts and constant e-mails to her spouse back home.

The strains of that separation lingered even after First Lt. Hardy returned to Fort Bragg in September. So she signed up for a military retreat to help soldiers and their husbands and wives cope with the pressures of deployments and relocations.

But less than 24 hours after arriving at the retreat, she and her spouse were told to leave. The military chaplains who organized the program last month said that the couple was making others uncomfortable. They said they had determined that under federal law the program could serve only heterosexual married couples.

Lieutenant Hardy is a lesbian in a same-sex marriage who had hoped that the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” in 2011 would allow her to fully participate in military life. But she and many other gay and bisexual service members say they continue to encounter a raft of rules and regulations barring them from receiving benefits and privileges routinely accorded to heterosexual service members.

Lieutenant Hardy had been assured by the chaplain’s office in the weeks before the retreat that she and her wife were welcome to attend. The chaplains said in hindsight that those assurances were given in error.

“I felt hurt, humiliated,” said Lieutenant Hardy, 28. “These were people I had been deployed with. And they were telling me I can go to fight the war on terrorism with them, but I can’t attend a seminar with them to keep my marriage healthy.” . . .

Continue reading. Interesting: Those discriminated against also feel uncomfortable—what about them?

And Chuck Hagel could potentially be a serious problem if he is confirmed as Secretary of Defense.

Written by LeisureGuy

20 January 2013 at 11:15 am

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