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Misogyny

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Women, simply by virtue of being women, tend to be targets of misogynistic men. Certainly it’s true that not all men are misogynistic, but all women experience harassment and worse misogynistic men, which is why the topic is worth discussion.

Some cultures are notably misogynistic: the Taliban, for example, things that it right to murder women who go to school. Quite a few fundamentalist communities (Christian, Jewish, and Muslim) are misogynous: women’s freedom is curtailed (women are not allowed to drive cars in Saudi Arabia), women are punished (or murdered) if they are raped. Some cultures require women to marry their rapist (apparently because they think that rape is an act of love instead of a felonious assault).

Focusing on the US, I have heard quite a few stories about the kind of treatment women are expected to endure. You can get an idea of it by browsing the Twitter hashtag #yesallwomen. (And take a look at this (repeating) animated graphic of the hashtag activity on 5/24-25/2014. When I’ve asked why women don’t speak up, one explanation I’ve heard is that men will simply deny that such things happen—I would guess that men who would not do such things can’t believe it and men who would do (or actually do) such things don’t want to look at the behavior: denial. And given the stress of living in such a situation I can well imagine that many women are also in denial, at least to the extent of minimizing the aggression directed toward them.

I observed an example of overt sexual harassment of a woman by a co-worker, and I told her that if she wanted to file a complaint, I would back her up. She responded, “Oh, that’s just Irv.” Apparently accepting such behavior is how many if not most women have been trained to deal with it, as though the fault were theirs.

It’s a bad situation, and it doesn’t seem to be getting better.

Written by Leisureguy

27 May 2014 at 11:08 am

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  1. Oh, the stories I could tell about the sense of “entitlement” some men will articulate they believe they have to whatever they want from women. Suffice to say, it starts with “What do you mean, “No?” I don’t see a ring on your finger.” And it escalates from there. Too many men think we are supposed to be interested in them simply because they are interested in us. I know there are wonderful men out there. I know several. I have dated a few, but ultimately we weren’t compatible for reasons such as how we viewed marriage and children. Big issues. But I have also met my share of total a-holes. I don’t expect to be spoiled or coddled. I don’t need lavish presents or anything outlandish. But I do not accept being treated as anything less than an equal. I believe in the Golden Rule and practice it in my daily life. I expect the man in my life to do the same. Case closed. Luckily my parents raised good sons amd daughters, so whoever is lucky enough to win the hearts of my siblings will have much better luck than most!

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    Melanie S.

    27 May 2014 at 12:28 pm


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