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Fear/Anger: Something I recently figured out

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It’s doubtless well known, but it just occurred to me as I wrote an answer on Quora: “Why does my fiancé get angry every time we run into a male I know from work or college who wants to talk to me?”

My answer:

I would guess that he feels insecure, fearful you are more interested in them than in him. Fear and anger have the same hormone profile—the “fight or flight” hormones—so switching between fear and anger is relatively easy: it’s just a matter of renaming the effect of those hormones. (Switching between fear and calm (or anger and calm) is difficult since the hormonal profiles are so different). Anger is a lot more comfortable than fear, so fear often is experienced and expressed as anger.

Or, possibly, he is so self-centered that anything that inconveniences him makes him angry. I suggest you discover which it is before you tie the knot.


Written by Leisureguy

2 September 2017 at 12:41 pm

Posted in Daily life

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