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Hell Hath No Fury Like a Man Rejected

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Jessica Valenti writes in her blog All in Her Head:

Until recently, I didn’t understand why Piers Morgan was so obsessed with Meghan Markle. I knew that the British pundit had a reputation for being bigoted and misogynist, but the particular focus on Markle—the countless nasty tweets, the repeated name-calling on television—was baffling.

But now, it all makes sense: Resurfaced videos show Morgan complaining in multiple interviews that after meeting the then-actress for a drink, she never spoke to him again. “She ghosted me!,” he told one reporter. “She cut me off,” he told another. (In one particularly pathetic interview, he sits in the same pub, at the same table, where he met Markle. “I really liked her,” he says.)

Apparently Markle’s sin of disinterest was reason enough for the television host to berate her publicly over the course of years. He’s called her “shameless,” a “social climber,” and—most recently—said he believed she was lying about being suicidal.

Hell hath no fury like a man rejected.

And while Morgan’s ire towards Markle is unique because it’s been blasted all over the world stage, you certainly don’t have to be a Duchess to suffer the anger of a jilted man.

Whether it’s the guy who follows you for ten blocks because you refuse to “smile,” the bar-dweller who calls you a bitch after you won’t give him your phone number, or the ex-boyfriend who leaves threatening voicemails post-break-up—most women have experienced the unpleasant aftermath of a man who’s been refused.

Anger from rejected men is such a regular part of women’s lives that many of us have strategies to preempt any nastiness: We invent boyfriends, wear fake engagement rings or give out fake phone numbers. We smile and act flattered, are polite when we don’t want to be, and leave relationships saying that it’s all our fault—anything to prevent a potential swell of rage.

Because we know that rejected men are dangerous men. Maybe he’ll release revenge porn after a break-up, or engage in workplace retaliation after denying unwanted advances. Or maybe the worst will happen.

Janese Talton-Jackson, mother to twin girls and a one-year old son, was out at a bar when she turned down a man for a date. He followed her outside and shot her in the chest. Twenty-year old Mollie Tibbets was jogging when a man approached her. She told him to leave her alone, and he stabbed her to death. Even the spate of misogynist mass shootings over the last few years have been perpetrated by men furious that women don’t want them.

That’s what makes rejected men so frightening; women never really know how severe their reaction will be. We do know, however, that the through-line is entitlement.

Men who won’t take ‘no’ as an understandable answer are men who believe they’re owed access to women’s bodies, time and attention.

There’s a reason that Morgan said, “I just think Meghan would be sitting there thinking, ‘I owe that guy one, I really owe that guy one.” It is incomprehensible to Morgan that Markle—who he shared one solitary drink with—owes him absolutely nothing.

It’s also why . . .

Continue reading. There’s more.

Written by Leisureguy

14 March 2021 at 3:20 pm

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  1. The author sounds a lot like Piers Morgan, although on the other side of the coin. She certainly seems to enjoy baseless rock throwing just as much as he does. Do you think that it might be that Hell Hath No Fury Like Americans Diving Into British Class Conflict rather than Hell Hath No Fury Like A Man Rejected?

    Tbone

    14 March 2021 at 11:58 pm

  2. Not sure, but I certainly have known how badly some men take rejection. I’ve seen it and when young suffered from it. There is no doubt whatsoever that there are indeed men — not the majority, but enough so that the great majority of women encounter one or two who simply cannot handle rejection and become angry and possessive to excess. In the worst cases, the woman ends up dead, but even lesser cases can be very bad indeed, not to mention the fear it causes. That is not baseless at all, but attested to in news stories, statistics, and common experience.

    LeisureGuy

    15 March 2021 at 8:59 pm


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